The Upside Down Family Coach

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Hi, I’m Sue Howard.

If you’re reading this, odds are you’re a Mom. Or you have a Mom. Me too. We’re going to be fast friends with all that we have in common.

Between my husband and I, we have two teens and a tot. I’m the stepmom to our 16yo boy and 15yo girl, and a mom to our 4yo.

I have 9 years of experience co-parenting with my husband and the biological mother of my older two. In these 9 years many tears have been shed, mistakes made, and hundreds of lessons learned (and still counting).

Yes, being a stepmom is hard. That’s a given. It’s also the most rewarding role I’ve taken on. My experience as a stepmom has changed the trajectory of my life and work.

The impact of this experience, combined with the love of coaching I discovered in the corporate world,  prompted me to leave my career in hi-tech and  launch Upside down Family Coaching

As your coach, my job is to partner with you to circumvent obstacles, facilitate conflict resolution, and  identify opportunities to create home life you want to go home to.

Partner with me to replace resentment with gratitude, and self-sacrifice with self-care.

Here are some ways I can help

Clarify Parenting Roles

Eliminate confusion around the role of step parents and gain support from the biological parents. From there the children develop respect for the step parent’s role enabling the step parent(s) and children to  establish a much needed connection.

Managing Finances

This is a often a sticky topic for step families (and first families!). Together we will hash out the details and come up with a plan to do away with resentment while ensuring needs are met across the board.

Navigate holidays and blend traditions

Develop a strategy for holidays and family traditions to help everyone member of the family feel included.

Nurturing your marriage

I speak from experience when I tell you it’s crazy difficult prioritizing marriage in a step family, and it’s a necessity. The last thing you and your family needs is another divorce. Learn to prioritize your marriage while helping your children deal with the fears this may trigger. In the end, a right side up family, with the marriage on top, is best for everyone.  The process of doing so can be a scary one, but once it’s done anxiety is reduced and security is increased.

Incorporating a new baby

Expanding the family is difficult for first families. Step families have already experienced loss and have a justified fear of abandonment. Learn how to address these fears and support the children in bonding with baby.

Individual coaching for Moms & Stepmoms

It’s impossible to understand just how difficult it is for the female members of a step family, unless you’ve been one. I get it.  From the stepmom feeling left out in her own home to the biological mother fearing the kids will love her more. Our sessions offer a safe space to vent, be validated, and, of course, problem solve.

Some additional details to consider

Location & Phone

Meadow Wind
100 Gray Rd, Suite 3
Falmouth, ME 04105



Individual Coaching: 115/session
Couples Coaching: 175/session
Family Matters Mediation: 175/session

Office Hours

By appointment only. Most in-person sessions occur between 9:30 AM and 4:30 PM.  For sessions via phone I’m able to offer more scheduling flexibility

Have questions? Ready to schedule your 1st session? Contact me.

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